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Imperfect Montessori Morning

This morning has been one of those times when you start to lose it a little bit as a parent. I'm running on nearly no sleep, with children who have colds and who are excited for the upcoming holiday. As I look around, I see so much imperfection. There are so many things that just seem wrong today. Messy. Disorganized. Cluttered. All my Montessori parenting urges are on high alert. 


There's abandoned work mats. Stupid plastic lightsabers that keep making their way into our home. 

Materials pulled from the shelves. Poor little dolls face down on the carpet. 


A random chair.


Dumped bins. 


And amid these seemingly endless imperfections, there is silence. In the moment, I panic -- like any parent with young children. Silence is never a good thing. Silence likely means all the toys are in the toilet or the baby is eating buttons or something. 



I investigate. And instead of craziness, I find two Montessori siblings cuddling together in bed. Discussing a calculator. Laughing and cuddling. So much perfection.

So, if you are feeling like things just aren't "Montessori" enough. Or that you are failing in some way, look closer. There is perfection in any situation. It might just not look like what you think it does!


If you liked this post, check out these posts: Mornings at the Weaning Table; Montessori Moment

Comments

Jen said…
Thank you for posting that!
I need this today! Thank you!
I need this today! Thank you!
Unknown said…
I love this. Sometimes I end the night feeling tired and grumpy and just as I'm about to yell at the kids to go to sleep, I find they are both still wide awake because they are discussing Minecraft strategies. A 3 and 9 year old! :)
I love this post! Thanks Nicole.
Very good post. I think all montessori parents feel this way once. Just a question (for curiosity): do you have the montessori materials in a room just for them? We have ours at my son's bedroom as we live in a small apartment but I feel sometimes he ignores them completely.

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