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Sleep, Sweet Sweet Sleep

Can someone please tell me how it feels to sleep through the night? It's 1:48 a.m. right now. Henry's been up for almost 1.5 hours. Morgan is feeding him some milk in a last ditch effort to get him to sleep. I'm writing in an effort to stay awake after a measly hour and 10 minutes of sleep.

As I mentioned in Hen's 18 month update, right around July 1st, Henry started waking up at night. He had been sleeping through the night since late January when we did our sleep training plan. The wakeups were a sudden unwelcome change. And they were different from January -- the kid won't go back to sleep.

Instead of waking a bunch, but going to sleep fairly quickly, Henry has been getting up once {sometimes twice} and staying up for between 2-3 hours at a time. Nothing we do, say, or give him makes any difference -- he's wide awake. It's not until those 2-3 hours have passed that he falls asleep, usually quietly in his own bed.

While he's awake, he wants to be with us or screams his face off. Not crying -- bloody murder no-tears screaming. If he's with us, he's quiet, just playful and awake.

At first these wakeups were a couple times a week, but they have increased to pretty much every day. Exhaustion and frustration are setting in.

Our pediatrician believes Henry is getting too much sleep. She thinks he is so low sleep needs that he can't sleep through the night because he just doesn't need any more sleep. She suggests getting him up earlier in the morning, putting him down later at night, and limiting his naps. This way when he's allowed to sleep, he's for sure tired.

I'm not entirely convinced with her theory. Since this has started, Henry has gotten all 4 molars and is working on 4 more teeth. Once the new ones are in, I'd like to see where we are at.

If things don't improve quickly, we are looking at another trip to the behavioral specialist...we are all at the end of our ropes.

And, for the record, it's 2:09 now, and Henry's still wide awake.

P.S.: Henry fell asleep at 3:45 this night.


Poor Hen. And poor mom and dad! Aj was up from 2-3.30 last night ready to party. Someone is also getting three teeth!!
Sarah said…
Oh, I am so sorry you guys are going through this! Could he be getting more teeth? Aubrey wakes up during the middle of the night when she's in pain from teething.
Lindsay said…
Ethan's pediatrician told us he was "low sleep needs," too from early on. He was down to one nap a day from the time he was 6 months old and that nap was anywhere from 45 minutes (on an average day) to 2 hours (on a good day). When Ethan turned a year and all of his friends were figuring out how to transition from 2 naps to 1, I was bitterly sulking in the fact I didn't even REMEMBER what 2 naps felt like! Ethan also didn't start sleeping through the night until a year. Well, the past 3 weeks, he's been doing what Henry has: waking up and STAYING UP. Last night he was up from 2-4 a.m.! Screaming BLOODY MURDER to the point where I thought something was wrong, undressed him and tried to look for fire ants or something! Nothing helped. Nothing. He was just up, content and eventually would go back to sleep after those couple of hours. It's been brutal and I'm exhausted as if we have a newborn all over again. Two days ago I noticed two molars cut through and the other two are on their way. I'm hoping it explains the bizarre sleep schedule. I did try putting him to bed later (didn't work), waking him up earlier (didn't work), putting him down earlier (didn't work) -- nothing worked. Bah.
YES! Ethan and Henry are the same baby just born a couple of months apart, I swear! Nothing helps. Nothing. It is the absolute worst screaming ever, like nothing he does during the day.

As long as he is with us, he is playful and content but not sleepy. Once the 2-3 hours is up, he goes back to sleep on his own, in his crib. Its so bizarre.
SAH Attorney said…
Ugh, I'm so sorry. I've been there and it is so frustrating. ((HUGS)) I hope you get some rest soon!
Kat said…
ugh - that's a pain. I would have guessed the "too much sleep" thing too - I've actually thought about looking at how many hours P needs now because she's starting to spend more time playing in her crib at bedtime.
Kaysha said…
Oh no! I am so sorry and hope things calm down once those teeth are in place! I also wanted to let you know I nominated you for a Liebster award.

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